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This is my response to a blog post I found that resonated with my practice completely!

http://djvinceadams.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/an-open-letter-to-men/

Thank you, thank you…thank you. As a woman that has been married and has dated both men AND women, there is nothing worse than a “bitchassman.” When dating women, I expect to experience the traits VA listed above; however, when dating men…I expect my man to be… A MAN!

Men, it’s not cute, nor does it make us feel like you really care about us ~ it’s nerve-wrecking and bitch-like. As a woman of varied tastes, I appreciate both sexes for different reasons. I want my man to be a man. While I do want to connect with him emotionally, I do not NEED him to be like one of the girls. I enjoy the fact that with men, I don’t have to worry about the “cattiness or the emotional drama”…men…let’s keep it that way.

I’m all for a man being in touch with his feminine side but as I tell other women all the time – find an outlet. Just because you HAVE those thoughts don’t mean that you have to share them with your partner. Dig deep down and determine WHY you are having them and work through it. Insecurity is not a turn on; jealousy does not prove that you really care for me and using my cell phone as a tracking device is just not cool…but more on that later.

If you would like to work with a coach that understands dating from both sides of the fence…I’m here.

Anita