Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man … Even Touched The Spirit of A Bisexual Woman
This has to be one of my favorite topics as well as workshops to facilitate. I love the look on the clients or participants faces as they are shown on several different occasions that they did not truly know how to define the terms that they use almost every day. How is this so?
Well, once upon a time long ago, for the sake of conformity we were taught to think as everyone else. We each developed our own individual elevator speeches surrounding particular descriptions of our every day relationships. If you were asked what type of personality traits you would want a particular person in your life to possess, I am sure you could rattle off at least 10 without taking a breath. The fun part here is actually getting you to define those 10 things in detail. This is where the work begins.
Many of my one on one clients or workshop participants has told me before embarking upon this assignment that they thought it was irrelevant to the workshop, felt it was a waste of their time and money and that they could think of other ways to spend our time together.This took me by surprise the first time I was attacked with these comments; however I knew the importance of it. I now expect and welcome this type of reaction and look forward to changing their minds only 15 minutes within the definition exercise. Once asked to define terms they used to describe personality traits; the first response is to define the term using the very term again in the definition. Since the actual word itself is off limits for use in the definition, they are forced to really sit with the word for a while and try it again.
It usually takes several brainstorming efforts in order to come up with a definition that they are satisfied with and that meets the criteria that I am looking for, however, here is where the surprise factor comes in - the actual definition that they gave for the word on the table at that moment is not the definition of that word but that of something else. They are amazed and a little embarrassed to recognize that one of the reasons why they never seemed to connect with a person that exhibited this trait is that they had not defined the term enough to know it when they saw it. This has brought about both positive and negative results.
The participants then go back over the list of individuals that they deemed as not having these traits while comparing their new definition of those traits. They are bewildered when they realized that some of the individuals did in fact encompass the “essence” of what they were looking for, it was the participant that had not gone deep enough into defining the terms to see it. They also didn't’t realize that even though they stated one particular trait they actually wanted something else.
As a result, some participants are moved to tears, others to laughter and countless others to their own personal A-HA! moments. I love it when I get this reaction. Something that started out as so unimportant and so trivial turned out to be a major point of reference to begin further dialog throughout the rest of the session. It opens up the floor and the hearts of those in attendance; it even mellows out the biggest skeptic of the group.
Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship;whether business, personal or otherwise. Without clear communication needs are not met, business deals are lost, trust is broken, intimate relationships and friendships are destroyed; etc. It is very important to know how your Purrfectly Authentic ™ self defines the terms you use to define the personality traits for all of your relationships.
Communicating Purrfectly Authentic ™ takes you back to the basics. In this workshop, I have the participants start over from scratch learning how to define and be okay with their definition of certain terms as they relate to them individually. It no longer matters what you were told when you were a child, what you believed during your teenage years, what you experience during your early adulthood…the only thing that matters at that moment, is how you wish to define that particular term at that time. It doesn't’t matter whether or not your definition makes sense to anyone else but you…if that is truly what the definition of that particular term means in your spirit then own it; accept it and live Purrfectly Authentic ™ in acceptance of it.
This workshop can be tailored to fit a range from one-on-one coaching session to a large group. Contact Anita for more information and for Anita’s availability.
Well, once upon a time long ago, for the sake of conformity we were taught to think as everyone else. We each developed our own individual elevator speeches surrounding particular descriptions of our every day relationships. If you were asked what type of personality traits you would want a particular person in your life to possess, I am sure you could rattle off at least 10 without taking a breath. The fun part here is actually getting you to define those 10 things in detail. This is where the work begins.
Many of my one on one clients or workshop participants has told me before embarking upon this assignment that they thought it was irrelevant to the workshop, felt it was a waste of their time and money and that they could think of other ways to spend our time together.This took me by surprise the first time I was attacked with these comments; however I knew the importance of it. I now expect and welcome this type of reaction and look forward to changing their minds only 15 minutes within the definition exercise. Once asked to define terms they used to describe personality traits; the first response is to define the term using the very term again in the definition. Since the actual word itself is off limits for use in the definition, they are forced to really sit with the word for a while and try it again.
It usually takes several brainstorming efforts in order to come up with a definition that they are satisfied with and that meets the criteria that I am looking for, however, here is where the surprise factor comes in - the actual definition that they gave for the word on the table at that moment is not the definition of that word but that of something else. They are amazed and a little embarrassed to recognize that one of the reasons why they never seemed to connect with a person that exhibited this trait is that they had not defined the term enough to know it when they saw it. This has brought about both positive and negative results.
The participants then go back over the list of individuals that they deemed as not having these traits while comparing their new definition of those traits. They are bewildered when they realized that some of the individuals did in fact encompass the “essence” of what they were looking for, it was the participant that had not gone deep enough into defining the terms to see it. They also didn't’t realize that even though they stated one particular trait they actually wanted something else.
As a result, some participants are moved to tears, others to laughter and countless others to their own personal A-HA! moments. I love it when I get this reaction. Something that started out as so unimportant and so trivial turned out to be a major point of reference to begin further dialog throughout the rest of the session. It opens up the floor and the hearts of those in attendance; it even mellows out the biggest skeptic of the group.
Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship;whether business, personal or otherwise. Without clear communication needs are not met, business deals are lost, trust is broken, intimate relationships and friendships are destroyed; etc. It is very important to know how your Purrfectly Authentic ™ self defines the terms you use to define the personality traits for all of your relationships.
Communicating Purrfectly Authentic ™ takes you back to the basics. In this workshop, I have the participants start over from scratch learning how to define and be okay with their definition of certain terms as they relate to them individually. It no longer matters what you were told when you were a child, what you believed during your teenage years, what you experience during your early adulthood…the only thing that matters at that moment, is how you wish to define that particular term at that time. It doesn't’t matter whether or not your definition makes sense to anyone else but you…if that is truly what the definition of that particular term means in your spirit then own it; accept it and live Purrfectly Authentic ™ in acceptance of it.
This workshop can be tailored to fit a range from one-on-one coaching session to a large group. Contact Anita for more information and for Anita’s availability.
Posted by Anita Charlot at 7/3/2009 9:35 PM 
Categories: relationships
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Categories: relationships
Tags: bisexual relationship act like a lady anita charlot bisexual women steve harvey think like a man
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